I know everyone has days, weeks, months, when they feel like they've just let everything s-l-i-d-e.... I've felt that way since summer.... I KNOW! Lazy or what?!
Well, I'm trying to get back on track now.... I've made up a house cleaning schedule for myself. Something I should have done a very long time ago. But, cleaning is one of those things where I always feel behind, and the nagging guilt I have over it some days is excruciatingly painful and paralyzing. Can you relate?
Anyhow, I'm 2 weeks into the schedule, and I have to say that I feel much less stress about keeping house. And, truth is, the schedule isn't really far off from what I was doing before; it's just that I've printed it off and posted it so that it's a BLAZING reminder of my daily tasks. And, I guess that's what I needed.... ACCOUNTABILITY.
It's funny, I demand accountability in my children's actions and the actions of others; and myself, for that matter.... just not in the context of a clean house. Why, I wonder?.... Is it because I know the house will never, ever be totally clean (untidy).... I'm not delusional. I have kids who create messes, I create messes.... and I'm generally the type who 'shoves' things.... thinking I'll get to them later.... but, oftentimes, later never comes. Please tell me you understand.... give me an agreeing head nod....
I have to say, that this pressure and stress I feel over house work, is pressure I put on myself. Why do we do that? If you ever find a reasonable answer to that question, please enlighten me; because all of the answers I have come up with are completely insane when you really think about them.
The world will not end if I don't put the dishes away before bed.... my children will not be forced to wear dirty clothes.... my friends and neighbours will not stop speaking to me because I haven't vacuumed in two days. I know this.
So, here's the thing. I make this schedule, and I'm not talking 3 hours of house cleaning a day.... just 15 minutes to half an hour on top of the daily pick-up and tidy..... do at least one load of washing and drying and putting away a day to keep on top of the mountains of fabric that pile up in my laundry room.... and most importantly, MOST IMPORTANTLY, putting things away, right away - NOT saving it for the later that never comes. HA!
It's working for me. I'm less stressed, I'm able to rationalize house cleaning better because I know I've accomplished my daily task, I have more quality time with my family and I'm satisfied that my family is not living in filth.... ok, so my house isn't filthy to begin with, just untidy at times really; but nonetheless, I find it somewhat stressful....
Aaaanyway.... In conclusion, I'm happier knowing I'm holding myself accountable for keeping a tidy home.... Have a great day, I'm off to clean the loo!